What is a wife? (पत्नी क्या है)

Did anyone ask this question to couples who tie knot?

Did any woman ask this question to man looking for bride?

Did anyone ask this question while reading or watching Mahabharat?

But I want to ask this question to all and everyone whom i can ask.

Yudhishthira was asked “what is a wife?” when he lost his wife in the game of dice. In the game of dice, property (cash, gold, kingdom… ) was used but how can one use wife as property.

One can say, Yudhishthira not only lost his wife but his brothers as well in the game of dice. Then the question applies to his brothers. This question becomes more important as it is concerned to woman’s pride. Man’s pride is equally important as woman’s pride.

Woman cannot exist without man and vise – vise. Both are equally important which is supported through nature. And so it is important that man respect woman, as well as woman respect man. It is equally important that woman respect another woman.

When the question “what is a wife?” was asked it was meant to know what is the position of women in the society? How can one place woman along with cash, gold, kingdom things which are materialist things in same scale?

Even in today’s world the same question can be raised. A lot of marriages take place every year and many divorces take place. It is easy to blame woman, defame woman and get divorce thinking she will never speak anything. Woman will suffer silently and try to maintain knot of marriage. But is it correct? Woman’s silence is treated a cover to defame her. Divorce is one aspect, alone woman in the society is every now and then defamed by men. Wife is companion, life partner and not a property.

Marriage – a choice or necessity

This post is in continuation to my previous posts on Marriage. Reference to previous posts are below.

I often find myself in discussion on Marriage with people from different religion and nation.

People from India know rituals very well. But when you discuss this topic with people from different nations you learn different views on Marriage, ritual and tradition.

I have seen a trend following in the society. As a child, one has to under go schooling (with pressure to get top rank), as a grown ups, need a degree and then a job with good pay. With a job, the search for life partner gets started. Seems like without marriage you are outcaste or not a human. Seems to be a religious pressure or a social rule imposed on each residents.

I always ask a question to people marrying — Why do you marry?

They don’t have real answer to this question, people want to marry to enjoy married life and get child to keep their family tree going on.

None of them would be focused on building their work life, professional life or profession. A job or a degree is enough for their life.

If this social mentality is compared with rest of the world, one can notice people give importance in building their career, building a business, getting to a better position in job or profession. For such people marriage is a choice.

This brings one more question, why marriage is a necessity?

Few answers comes to my mind, one, some nations don’t have enough skilled people or people to meet the needs of labor so freedom from Government comes to have a big family. Second, religious pressure forcing people to marry as soon as possible.


Lotus – a symbol of divine beauty unaffected by sin

Lotus holds a special position in Hinduisum and couple of cultures. Lotus is said to be the flower loved by Vishu and Lakshmi. A bloomed lotus is said to be uncovering the creator God Bhrama. It is also symbolized as expansion of the soul.

As a child I use to wonder what makes a Lotus flower, a flower loved by God when there are lots of spieces of flowers on earth. Is it merely beauty that would make lotus a loved flower? I use to ask my elders all such questions.
Now, I can relate why Lotus is a special flower. With this post I would like to share my reason for Lotus being a special flower.

Lotus grow in a mudy area, which will not be a solid land, nor it will be complete water. It would be a mixture of both. So a lotus will have roots in earth and grow through water, which are two essential elements of nature (referred as 5 mahabhuta in literature) and body.
It have a long stem coming out of water. This is the stem where the lotus would bloom. The flower bloom outside the water, in air. If a drop of water falls on the leaf or petal of lotus,it will easily slide off. The perfect example of detachment. The combination of elements earth (mud), air, fire (sun light) and water. It seems to teach us to learn about our spiritual base and grow ourselves in the path of salvation.

Keeping the preaching of salvation or purpose of life aside, we can still implement the preaching of lotus in our day to day activities. We can perform all our duties without getting attached to it. We are asked to perform our duties and not to think about the result. Logically, if you would have performed all our duties with heart without attachment, you will get the best result. All such duties performed without attachment becomes automatically free from all sin and is immediately rewarded by God.

The lesson of purity learnt from lotus can also be implemented on speech, body and mind. Never speak anything bad or against the wellfare of others. Keep your thoughts clean for others. I could say this now, even if the person has done worst to you, honestly they would have only done good to you. A person doing bad to you is chosen by God. They have the courage to be bad with you to teach you some lesson, to bring you near to your spiritual goal. The more you will clean your heart, mind and speech the more you will feel happy and some day for sure you will be blessed by God.


Lotus holds a special position in Hinduisum and couple of cultures. Lotus is said to be the flower loved by Vishu and Lakshmi. A bloomed lotus is said to be uncovering the creator God Bhrama. It is also symbolized as expansion of the soul.

As a child I use to wonder what makes a Lotus flower, a flower loved by God when there are lots of spieces of flowers on earth. Is it merely beauty that would make lotus a loved flower? I use to ask my elders all such questions.
Now, I can relate why Lotus is a special flower. With this post I would like to share my reason for Lotus being a special flower.

Lotus grow in a mudy area, which will not be a solid land, nor it will be complete water. It would be a mixture of both. So a lotus will have roots in earth and grow through water, which are two essential elements of nature (referred as 5 mahabhuta in literature) and body.
It have a long stem coming out of water. This is the stem where the lotus would bloom.

Living life is loving life

Always while reading Gita and Bhagavad Purana I wonder how extensive is the character of Krishna if it is a song or an epic. After reading each every time I find a new horizon of his character.

Everything revolves around Krishna and Krishna is in everything. He is like butter hidden in milk. But this post is not all about him or his form.

While reading Gita, I came across a question, “why Krishna had pain or complain about his life as a child?” He was son of a King, yet he was living his childhood as a shepherd. Instead of servants taking his care, he used to take care of cows.  If we would be in his place, I am sure we would have some regret or complain about such a situation.

The way he took his life, his childhood. No matter where you are born and brought up or you live, it is you who make yourself. As a child any act of Krishna was very clear and full of confidence. He knew what he was doing. Even if it was killing devils or teasing “Gopis” he was very clear in his thoughts. He was not focused on pleasures of Palace. He was not focused on knowing whose son he is. He just knew everyone is a part of his family. He was related to everyone. Rather he is related to everyone.

It also makes me realize, he was living his life and thus loving his life. When you are happy with what you have; what you chose and what you do; then you live life in that moment. As a child we are always happy being enjoying sleep, food and games. But as we grow put this happiness in fences. Before going to sleep either we think of upcoming tasks, events, money, and our fights with others or others behavior towards us. We hardly take a note of good things we had done in the whole day. So we end-up with sadness. A pile of such days, months and years make us away from our life. We forget to live. We forget when last time we enjoyed ice-cream, a nap or a ride.

Instead of having plate full of sweet and delicious dishes, if you have bread with some vegetable and if you eat with “Thanks” to God for giving you that food; definitely you will enjoy that food. It will give you happiness same way as Krishna was happy having meals in forest with fellow shepherds and cows. There were no coolers; no A.C., no fans and the plates were filled with some bread that they would have taken with them before leaving home. Oh!!! I forgot, there was no oven to warm up bread. He was still enjoying his food.

Take the example of his poor friend “Sudama” who came to meet his friend Krishna, who was then a king. Sudama had brought with him some rice which was the only food left in his house when he left home to meet Krishna. Krishna was happy to eat that rice. He saw love of his friend not the food.

So it is all about how you see the life and events. If you fail in exam and start crying for failure, you will never find out a way to success, because your eyes are filled with water. If you complain about your past, you will never be able to find best things in your past and this will not let you live in your present. When you are not living in your present, you are not living your life. Thank you, Krishna for teaching, living life is loving life.

What is the use to show skills to blind

kabir dohe


Translation: When Kabir is asked to teach an intellectual then he feels shy. What is the use of showing dancing skills to one who is blind.


Kabirji’s doha on intellectual is evident when we face people who say they are ‘intellectual’ and when we meet people who pretend to be ‘intellectual’. I doubt whether these two categories of people know whether they are aware of the fact, “the true intellect is one who is aware of past, present and future.” When I say aware, I mean, know what they have done in past. I am sure if I will ask above specified two categories of people a question, “are you aware of what you have done in past?”, following will be the answer. “Yes. I have earned some N amount.” or “I was a topper.” or “I am best of all in <some place>”. or “Yes. I attend regular classes of <spiritual guru>”

A real intellect will never express his work done for the welfare of the society. He will be aware of his past deeds, good or bad. That is, he would be aware of his mistake of hurting someone with his words or deeds. (An intellect will never hurt anyone with intension). He will always watch his deeds and improve himself over his mistakes. A real intellect will not worry about future. When such a person faces so called ‘intellect’ will prefer to be silent. He would feel shy to teach such ‘intellect’ people.

To Forgive

We often advice people to forgive others. We knowingly or unknowingly hurt others by our words, act and attitude.

Casually we say “sorry”, “pardon me” and at times of festival we meet every friend and relative with a request to forgive us for knowingly or unknowingly being hurt. IS IT ENOUGH!!!!!

Can “Sorry” be enough? Does “Sorry” give us the license to do another mistake?

Or “sorry” teach us something….

It is not easy to forgive someone. If you have never given forgiveness, it would be difficult for you to forgive. Forgiving someone is not easy.

At first you will have to realize that you are equally responsible for the mistake though not in all cases but in few cases both are equally responsible.  How you could be responsible? You react with anger when someone hurt you and thus you become responsible of hurting the other. You reflect the act done by others to you and share the responsibility.

When you decide to forgive, you will first of all have to stop reacting. When you stop reacting over others actions, you will start remembering their wrong deeds. I would say, you will start revisiting those deeds again and again. In this act of revisiting you will again be trapped in anger and would like to react, would not like to forgive others. But be firm on the decision to forgive. You will keep on revisiting wrong deeds of others for some time, but every time you revisit those deeds, you would realize that those who did wrong to you were ignorant of what they are doing, you will find their behavior childish and your heat will be filled with pity on them. If not with pity you would realize that you can forgive them.

Slowly when you realize that you can forgive them you may even feel like you are good or better than them… a form of ego…

But while putting efforts in forgiving you will soon realize you are not better… neither you are best nor they… neither you are doing good to yourself or to them… you are working to free yourself from the fire of anger and the feeling to punish them.

Yes, when someone does something wrong to you, you will be filled with anger and you would find all the possible way to punish them. Unknowingly you keep on burning yourself in anger and the desire to punish.

We can say, to forgive someone is the best punishment.

I would say, when you forgive someone from heart, you will be in a state where the wrong deeds done by others will no more be painful to you, those deeds would not be important to you and later you would feel you find those people as creation of god, a creation like you, and would pray for their well-being and goodness.

I could say all this as I have reached to the state of forgiveness where I am able to pray for well-being and goodness of those who did wrong to me, who do wrong to me.

How useful a human is?

People around the world cry for different cause – save birds, save tigers, save water, save trees, save earth….. We take some or the other thing from these species of earth. In fact, we take a lot from earth.

What we give?

This question will make you scratch your head. We don’t feed other species rather we don’t let other species live their life.

Trees gives us fruits, flowers and shadow but we never give shelter to our parents, we hesitate to give shelter to friends and relatives. If a relative spends few days, our schedule gets disturbed and we wish them to aideu us. If it’s raining heavily and someone asks for lift, honestly many of us would make face.

Tigers and hippopotamus are killed for their skin, bones…. But never a man is killed for such reason though women will be killed for money.

All elements of nature suffice each other’s needs selflessly but human will always find benefits. In return to lending helping hand to others people always think what they will get in return. The irony is, we never hesitate in taking help but we always think millions of time in giving help.

So if not a living man is helpful to others, will he be helpful after death?


Very few would have donated eyes or in rare case body or parts of body to needy after their death. This made me think does holy scripts restrict? The answer came to me is NO

It is we who have made our mindset such that we don’t offer help but take help.

Research of J. C. Bose – Parts from autobiography of a yogi

I happen to come across following quotes about research of J.C.Bose in the book autobiography of a yogi.

Years later Bose’s pioneer plant findings were substantiated by other scientists. Work done in 1938 at
Columbia University was reported by THE NEW YORK TIMES as follows:

It has been determined within the past few years that when the nerves transmit messages between the brain
and other parts of the body, tiny electrical impulses are being generated. These impulses have been measured
by delicate galvanometers and magnified millions of times by modern amplifying apparatus. Until now no
satisfactory method had been found to study the passages of the impulses along the nerve fibers in living
animals or man because of the great speed with which these impulses travel.


While reading these lines, i imagined following points.

— Every living and non living creature is a smart structure of physics and life science.

— Each part and cell of body or mass is associated with each other. They communicate life force.

— Each body or mass is a formation of electromagnetic waves in a way.

— These ways are always active within the body or mass.

— As said in the above quote, electrical impulses or what i refer as electromagnetic waves are generated by brain and other parts of the body. It is hard to see with cosmic eyes and requires efforts to measure its frequency. But it could be felt.

— Many creatures can easily feel these waves or electrical impulses. While certain creatures are neutral to such feeling.

— Centuries back, in the age of Shuka, Patanjali and other such rishis, the art of feeling and giving respect to these electical impulses were known and preserved.

Life – A Journey

The penned post is my thoughts and view on life. This visualization and understanding came up after reading ‘Bhagavad Purana’ and ‘Garuda Purana’.

Life and Death are two major junctions of a journey. The soul travels towards the ultimate destination. This journey of soul is a cosmic journey, which when viewed in context of materialistic destinations (life and death), is a journey of a physical body. Physical body is formed of five elements of nature, along with wish, desire and aspirations.


In the journey towards the ultimate destination the soul passes through various lessons. One can term these lessons as purification process. A purified soul can only get place in the ultimate destination.

The soul travels alone on this journey but physical body builds bonds. In one journey from life to death the physical body builds such bonds. On reaching the destination of death the physical body casts out physical bonds but the cosmic body remembers the karmic bonds. Even we can say with cosmic body karmic bonds follow the soul in the journey. Physical body is unaware of such karmic bonds. From time to time cosmic body passes messages of karmic bonds to the physical body.

If I say the cosmic body is your intuition or sub conscious self then shouldn’t I be overstating.

Life – Birth to Death and Death to Birth

I would like to pen down this article narrating my thoughts and supporting context from “Garuda Purana”.

Every now and then I used to hear from wise, learned and elders; we get this life once, we are born as human beings for we have done good deeds in our past life. Two contradictory statements, if we get this life once then how do we earn fruits of past life?

In search of answer to many such questions I happen to read “Garuda Purana”.  It answered many questions; it is rich in knowledge and material. Here, I would like to put down the knowledge I gained from this text.

A debatable issue: We (all leaving beings humans, animals, birds…) rebirth.

Above statement will always be debatable until it is taken as granted or it wins over the logical reasons or arguments.

Every life begins with purpose, the universal purpose is to learn and practice love, harmony, peace, see all creatures equally.  Manage equilibrium of Satvaa, Rajo and Tamass gunna. In order to learn the universal purpose living beings are given opportunities. Upon learning it is expected the learned implement the knowledge in practice.

From birth till death, every creature passes through 3 phases of life, namely childhood, adulthood and grows aged. Childhood passes in fun and aged looses strength, so the most efficient and favorable period is adulthood. It is expected that every living being in its adulthood learn the universal purpose of life and practice till death. The death of every creature is pre-determined. Death will come when it has to come. At the time of death, the universal power evaluates the knowledge of creature and based on the universal education earned by the creature, the creature is given life/ commands.

I would in layman term as “if your studies are pending you will be asked by teachers to complete pending studies.”

In the event of learning and implementing, creature finds itself bound by karma, this bond gives birth to feelings and if the creature is not careful it is trapped in ‘Maya’ and various bonds.  This leads to a vicious circle of life and death.

Based on karma the creature is given the physical body as without physical body a creature cannot learn the universal purpose of life.