A divine bridge between souls – love

I always have arguments on this topic with friends. Even today my stand is same, I don’t agree with their views of love.

Last days I had been through an experience again. As usual I helped someone and later the work was appreciated. The person followed the suggestions and applied all the efforts for the best. It was those efforts that earned appreciation, I was given thanks. I could sense it was from heart.

It reminded me about the same feel I had when someone stopped smoking on my repeated request. On asking myself this question how to describe this feeling I got following answer,

It was appreciation from heart to heart which transformed into divinity which could be termed as bridge between souls. A soul has expressed gratitude, affection and love towards another soul.

Almost all of us feel such feeling when we do good to others or when someone does good to us.

An injured bird when get warm in someone’s arms, its soul expresses the same gratitude, affection and love, which could be felt and which is Love.

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Love Me

🙂 What an irony I am back on this to write about love again.

Again today a friend and well wisher have prayed in temple for me. Instead of asking for good health, wealth or brain, she has asked God to make be believe in love. With this prayer there are many hands and heart that have till now prayed for me and in their prayer they have asked God to bless me with “love” and make me believe in love. I sincerely thank all those hearts and hands who raised for prayer. I sincerely pray God to bless you all with happiness, peace and prosperity.

I am not writing this post to thank you all or pray for you all. But want to ask you all a question. What is LOVE?

One gentleman gave me a movie called “hal-e-dil” nice movie. One lady gave me an example of a person who has expressed his love. Another lady told her love story and one lady told how she would like to fall in love all over again and how she lost her love, all this continued….. So I decided to watch movies. I saw few movies where they show love. I listened all those who say they love someone or in love.

One thing was common, either of them was good looking, cute and smart or both were smart, either of them was poor or both were poor or rich. They met each other, fought over various issues, then realized that they want to live with each other and they thought they are in love and then they either married or had physical relationship. Spent time and then separated or in some cases lived with each other as they had no choice.

The common part was to get into physical relationship, which they termed as love. What is love? Is it getting in to physical relationship or marrying a person who is rich or who is smart or good looking?

It was very strange to know that they believed that physical relationship is the most important part of their life(love life). “Physical Relationship” for a common man is a game of maximum 5 minutes but is a yoga. How can this a game of 5 minutes be love, which is deep like ocean, wast like sky and purest of all pure things? I feel like it is a sickness to term kissing or getting involved in game of 5 minute as love. To such people I want to ask a question, prostitutes play this 5 minute game, can you say that they sell love? Let me put in better words, can you say that they reduce your burden of pockets by giving you love?

If this is love then I am really thankful to God that he has not given me anyone whom i love. Thank you God for you have not given me faith in such love.

Love brings two soul together, love teaches you to be cool, calm, patience, fight. When you love someone you would like to walk in moon light, rain, sun, hold hands of other to enjoy morning star, evening sky, sunset and every element of nature. You get someone with whom you share your smile, tears and ups-downs of life. In summary love is uniting together to share strengths and face the challenges of life. But when physical relationship is in the center of love or when physical relationship wears face of love, I believe it is not love but an ugly hunger for body.

I referred physical relationship as yoga above. Yes, it is a yoga. No one would have observed this. In yoga, person will be taught to control his breath (vyau) in their body. The two people involved in physical relationship unconsciously enters into yoga. They unknowingly start controlling their breath, centralize their energies in one center. As they are not Excellent Practitioner of Yoga they are not able to keep that energy centralized at one point for long time. I am sure all of them would never observed that for one second they feel so relaxed, peaceful and calm that all their issues in their brain and heart would come to an end. And for sure they would not have noticed that their body gets filled with fresh energy.  After coming out of this yoga they feel very good or relaxed and most time they feel sleepy. The reason is all their senses have released tensions or exertions it was into. Everything within them have become peaceful and their unconscious mind takes them to a new world where they can find eternal peace. But their conscious mind is not able to walk with that unconscious mind.

To me both Love and Physical Relationship is like worshiping God. And when sick people make Physical Relationship as the center of love then I feel pity on them. To them I want to ask one more question, What do you find to good in this bag of skin filled with bones and muscles which will loose its beauty and strength one day. What do you find to attractive in this bag which will leave you. And most important which is not yours? 🙂

Yes, if i take base of the theory of re-incarnation then this bag of skin filled with bones and muscles is just a vessel which is being used by thoughts to accomplish their tasks.

To those for whom physical pleasure is love, I can just pray for you, you are running behind “kasturi” which you could have got if you would have understood that playing with body is not love.

I Love You

I remember one of my incident of childhood, it was when I changed my home like school and joined a new school. I had no friends for all most a year. What more you can expect from an introvert person? Some how people started making me friends. That is all a different story. Now I was not alone at lunch break. I use to share my lunch with others. I remember there was a student, from Zambia, who use to study in our class. Completely extrovert person. He was like a wind, who touches each and every leaves, buds and make them flowers. Full of life. He use to tease me and instead of smile I use to give him angry expression. I use to watch him closely, how he use to make smile people when they are crying and try to learn that. His one of the habit was to shake hand with anyone he use to meet. Same he use to do with me, but I never shake hand with him. One day he told, “oh come on! you can shake hand with me I have washed my hands and even applied perfume” but I didn’t shake hand with him. That day, girls with whom I use to share my lunch were talking about love. I listened them for a while then I made busy in my work. Suddenly a question came, “what do you think about love?”. I said “there is nothing like love, no one loves any one in this world, its affection and nothing else”. While I was giving these views that boy came in and offered a shake hand. I refused and he said, “this is not done. you don’t know what is love, you don’t have heart.” And went out with a sad face. Though he can never be sad. Soon girls seating there told me, “remember one day you will fall in love, in a mad love.” I laughed them and challenged them that there is no one whom I will love.

After years, long years, today, we were discussing about a song being played on radio. As usual my reaction was, “its love song, boring song, love stories are boring. There is nothing like love and no one loves in this world anyone. Its just affection and infatuation.” Suddenly my friend stopped me here and told me, “mark my words, you will fall in love, some will be there who will love you like mad and whom you will love like mad. you will feel the pain of love and tell me that you are in love.”

I laughed… literally laughed…. and still laughing….. Me and love…. 🙂

sorry but i don’t believe in such love. To me love should bring happiness and pleasure. How can it bring pain. I don’t believe in such things and its just bookish.

To her I would say…..

aisi to koi suraat nahi (there is no such face)

jise muraat banaa ke hum pooje (which I can worship as God)

aisi to koi ankhe nahi (there is no such eyes)

jis me hum doob jaaye (in which I can lose myself)

aisi to baahe nahi (there is no such arms)

jis me hum toot jaaye (in which I can rest)

aisa koi bnaa hi nahi (God has not made anyone)

jis se hum keh sake “I love you” (whom I can say these three words)

Finally we ended up with her words, “you keep this in your note, you will for sure fall in love with a person who will accept you as you are and you will be happy.”

I remember my husbands words, “you really don’t know what is love, you are a saint, I have not seen a girl like you.” Poor man, I think he tried to make me realize what is love but was in vain. To me all this, funny things, like writing names here and there, reading mails, giving gifts and hugs and lots more is just a stupid act. By writing name anywhere you are just making that beautiful place ugly. And by telling anyone that you love him or her doesn’t mean that you love him or her.

I have seen people who fall in love and spend years before they marry. After marriage, “aha!! I am tired of my wife. She is so demanding, always asks me to take out, take things for me.” “umhm!! my husband he was good as lover, use to take me out, give me gifts, praise me whenever I use to wear new dress. But today he just keeps himself busy with work”.

I remember there was a friend of mine in Master of Computer Application, who married when she was going to give her final year Bachalor of Computer Application exam. Her was a love marriage. With lots of controversies she married. One day her husband desired to buy a weapon for his protection. He was a writer. He would have got some sort of notes from some parties about his article which was forcing him to buy weapon. While talking to her, she told me “how can I let him buy weapon, if some day he will get angry he will kill me.” I don’t understand, when you love someone and when you are married to that special person, how can you think he can kill you. This is not love. If this is love, I strongly oppose it, I don’t believe in love.

Anyone who believe in this kind of love is free to discuss this here……

Loveriya

In the previous post of “What is Love?” I had written about what normally people think on love and the power of love. Its clear that when you say, you are in love all your strengths are at your peek and you give you 100%.

Before I list down what love is, according to various famous personalities. I would like to list down my own thoughts here. The reason is, I am no where near to them in thoughts and can stand besides them also in thoughts.

Me and Love::

In adolescent days, I use to cry in corner, thinking I am alone. I dont have any one to love me. My father use to remain in tour and I was unable to see him. So when every child use to see father in the evening returning from office or work, I use to wait for my dad to return. When some one use to scold me I use to think, if dad would be here, they would have not dared to scold me. I dont want to tell my history here.

Slowly I grew and now I was with my dad. But yet I feel alone. I use to write poems filled with loneliness. Some years passed and one day, I was away from parents. That day, I realized What is home, What is being alone. I realized the true meaning of being alone. Spending couple of days in that pain. That now I am not with them, with whom I was earlier and become more alone. I was in a state of utter pain. This painful situation draw me in a state where I was neither in pain nor in happiness. A neutral state. Spending some time in this neutral state. Suddenly I realized that I am not alone. Some one was with me. Who was that “Someone”?. Oh!!! I was me. YES, IT WAS ME. I was with me.

In these many years, I was thinking of being alone, later thinking of dying. AND SUDDENLY I WAS NOT ALONE. I, MYSELF WAS WITH ME. This, myself, filled me with happiness and joy. HURRAY!!  I am no more alone. Each and every one in this world leaves you. Be it mother, father, friends, sister, brother, daughter, son, husband all leaves you alone and finds their way. But ME, MYSELF, never makes me alone. Me, Myself, is always there to show way, guide, laugh with me, cry with me. This very me, shares each and every feeling of mine. It accepts me in the form and nature I am. It never criticizes me, never hurts me, listens me with patients and guides me all the time. OH!! How fool I was, I spent years find a companion, a lover and a partner who will share my feelings and take away my loneliness.

From that very day, I WAS IN LOVE. Ofcourse, the one whom I love is, myself.

Neither me nor myself is demanding any thing in this love. We simply love each other. We simply love being each other. After all what we are expecting from our lover?

  • Accept us what we are
  • Listen to us carefully
  • Care for us
  • Think for us
  • Be with us in all the situation
  • Share our tears and joy

I got all from myself. And so I fell in love with me.

QUESTION:: But a man and a woman at a certain age needs some thing more than what I stated earlier. What about that?

I was being asked this question by many people, young and aged. Upon hearing this question from aged people, I just smiled and upon hearing this question from young people I felt petty on them.

Let me put here, why? Aged people yet were not able to understand the meaning of love. And young people dont have time to think what is love. Both the age group people think love is just having sex with each other. Can a such a simple physical activity be love? Then you can term prostitutes in love with their male partners. Am I not true?

ANSWER:: I cant term physical relationship as love. Love is the food of soul, it enlightens your soul, your brain and an enlightened brain enlightens life. Where as getting into sex is just pleasing your body. Which itself is not yours. You will leave this body when you are leaving this world. Every time you have sex you not be satisfied, you will not be happy and you will wonder for happiness and peace. But when you are in love, you will feel fully satisfied, you will not wonder for happiness and peace. You will get all that from love.

Getting into physical relationship pleases your senses and not your soul. And if you term physical relationship as love, then I will sure you term you SICK. Mentally sick person, whose senses are hungry and wondering every where sniffing for physical pleasure.

But if you are looking for eternal peace and true love but unable to understand what is love and then term that physical relationship is part of love. Then I would say, you are illiterate and need some education, help to know what exactly love is.

Dont ask me to define love. As I cant define love. Love is boundary less, definition less, which can not be put in one form. It gives pleasure to soul and when soul is happy, happiness of mind and body becomes neutral or you can say they get automatically satisfied. Its this supreme soul which tells mind and body what is love and dedicates them.

Read further what Gandhi, Vivekananda, Osho and other tell about love…..

What is Love?

Love is a very common term for us. We use this term often to express our feelings and symbolize our feelings or thoughts. When any thing pleases or soothes your gyanendriya (Eyes, Ears, Tongue, Nose, Skin), you immediately respond “I like it“.  You term any reason that pleases your senses as good and term your attraction as “like”. But when physical beauty attracts you, draws attention of your senses you say, “What a beauty”. This sign shows you are attracted to see this beauty. When you keen watching that beauty and all your senses goes deep rooted in that “beauty” you say, “I Love this beauty”. You start logging to see that beauty again and again. Your heart tells your brain to find that beauty and keep watching.

If this feeling is mixed or filled with purity of thought you can term it as true “Love” but in all other cases its just infatuation and attraction. Which will go away as soon as your senses finds another attractive thing. Thus, what I mean here is, you need to first judge within your self whether you are attracted with the “object” or “beauty” before naming your view as “Love”.

Many people say that, “because of you my life changed”,  “you are my luck”, “i need to see you before I do some good work”, etc… But when looked upon closely on it you, yourself have achieved that marvelous result. As your energies were concentrated at one place you were able to focus on them at one point. You were focusing on that “someone” and put all your efforts to please that “someone”, thus, you achieved what seems to be miracle.

This same energy can then be diverted to some fruitful activity. Now imagine when you are focusing all your attention in you. I say you start loving yourself. I know you will laugh on me, but why not to love your ownself rather than loving others. Meaning of this statement could be, 1) you become selfish. NO this is not the meaning, I dont want you to be selfish. 2) Rather want you to focus on yourself and open up for world, like a lotus. It concentrates on its own beauty, own life and open up its petals for world.

You love your body, Love your features, Love your character, Love your work, Love your act, Love your voice, Love your speach, Love food cooked by you, Love your signing, dancing, sleeping, Love your smile, Love your each moment, Love your each hour, Love your life. This way all your energy will be focused on you and in you. Now when all your energy will be focused in you, all your power will be in your hand. And when all your power will be in your hand, you will be able to achieve the results you want.

This was the introduction to love and a glimpse of the power of love. More to follow….